{"id":26010,"date":"2016-08-08T22:00:49","date_gmt":"2016-08-08T15:00:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/?p=26010"},"modified":"2016-08-09T00:06:54","modified_gmt":"2016-08-08T17:06:54","slug":"lam-the-nao-de-doi-dien-voi-thuc-te-rang-ban-chi-la-mot-nguoi-rat-binh-thuong-alexis-bright","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/lam-the-nao-de-doi-dien-voi-thuc-te-rang-ban-chi-la-mot-nguoi-rat-binh-thuong-alexis-bright\/","title":{"rendered":"L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng? – Alexis Bright"},"content":{"rendered":"
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C\u00e0ng th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00e0ng \u00edt ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n – Tariq Ramadan<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

T\u00f4i ngh\u0129 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n t\u00f4i kh\u00e1 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0m t\u00f4i phi\u1ec1n l\u00f2ng n\u1eefa. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch ch\u1eefa ung th\u01b0 hay c\u1ee9u th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. D\u00f9 l\u00e0 t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n th\u1ea5y th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i ngh\u0129 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3i b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec c\u0169ng ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec sai c\u1ea3.\u00a0T\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 nh\u01b0 bao ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi phi th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u0169ng th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng v\u1edbi t\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

T\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u01a1n l\u00e0\u00a0nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c\u00a0khi so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. <\/strong>T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng kh\u00e1t khao tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f4i khi t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 sa l\u1ea7y v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c so s\u00e1nh m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c trong nh\u00f3m ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang l\u00e0m n\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0110\u00c1NG KINH NG\u1ea0C v\u00e0 c\u00f3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. N\u00f3 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i b\u0103ng kho\u0103n r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec3m g\u00ec kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t h\u01a1n h\u1ecd. V\u1eady c\u00e1ch duy nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y l\u00e0 ng\u1eebng so s\u00e1nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u201ct\u00f4i c\u00f3 gi\u1ecfi b\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng\u201d m\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u201ct\u00f4i c\u00f3 \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh ch\u01b0a v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu ch\u01b0a th\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i\u201d.<\/p>\n

H\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 bao ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi phi th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u0169ng v\u1eady.<\/strong> T\u00f4i c\u0169ng ngh\u0129 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u00f9ng th\u1ea7m l\u1eb7ng. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd l\u00e0m, cho d\u00f9 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111ang l\u00e0m kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec m\u1edbi\u00a0m\u1ebb\u00a0c\u1ea3. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c \u201c\u0111\u00fang\u201d, b\u1edfi v\u00ec n\u00f3 \u201c\u0111\u00fang\u201d, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb n\u00f3 mang l\u1ea1i. H\u1ecd l\u00e0m m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 ai \u0111ang\u00a0nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o h\u1ecd\u00a0hay kh\u00f4ng. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng \u00f4ng b\u1ed1 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 t\u1ed1t, tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u01b0\u01a1ng x\u1ee9ng v\u1edbi gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd, v\u00e2ng v\u00e2ng v\u00e0 v\u00e2ng v\u00e2ng.\u00a0Th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng k\u00e9m g\u00ec vi\u1ec7c\u00a0c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi phi th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i, ki\u1ec3u gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb n\u00e0y c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111o l\u01b0\u1eddng, v\u00ec v\u1eady c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t l\u00f2ng tin r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng\u00a0nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111o l\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c (v\u00ed d\u1ee5 nh\u01b0 ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng song song c\u1ee7a nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn kh\u00e1c nhau). T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n\u00a0(h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady). V\u00e0, ngh\u0129 cho c\u00f9ng, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n. Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m qua t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3, thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 tin, lo l\u1eafng, ph\u1ea5n kh\u00edch, t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, n\u1ed7i \u0111au, v\u00e2ng v\u00e2ng, v\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea1m sai l\u1ea7m, c\u00f3 b\u1ea3n \u00e1n, c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed9c \u00e1c.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. <\/strong>M\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa m\u00e0 t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a ra \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o trong vi\u1ec7c d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 phi th\u01b0\u1eddng. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng con v\u1ecbt tr\u00ean m\u1eb7t n\u01b0\u1edbc \u2013 tr\u00f4ng c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0 \u0111ang l\u01b0\u1edbt nh\u1eb9 tr\u00ean b\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t l\u1ea1i \u0111ang l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1eadt l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ea9y t\u1ee5t v\u1ec1 sau, v\u00e0\u00a0sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ed9i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f2ng c\u00f2n m\u1ec7t h\u01a1n n\u1eefa. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u00e2n t\u00edch v\u1ec1 “chi ph\u00ed – l\u1ee3i nhu\u1eadn” gi\u1eefa m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9 c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n, nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 b\u1ea1n ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0o, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00f4i khi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng\u00a0mu\u1ed1n\u00a0l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c \u201cc\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3. \u00a0L\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c b\u00f9 \u0111\u1ea7u b\u00f9 c\u1ed5\u00a0kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng hay h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. V\u00e0 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f4i khi c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1eafc s\u1ebd h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eadn ra nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0o n\u1eb1m ngo\u00e0i t\u1ea7m ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. <\/strong>\u0110\u00f4i khi may m\u1eafn \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn trong vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. \u0110\u00fang n\u01a1i \u0111\u00fang l\u00fac. G\u1eb7p may. Ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh l\u1ecbch s\u1eed ho\u1eb7c v\u1ecb tr\u00ed. C\u00f3 v\u00e0i\u00a0b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft kh\u00e1 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf\u00a0v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng b\u01b0\u1edbc c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec3 gia t\u0103ng v\u1eadn may trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. V\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i nh\u00e9, nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3n b\u01b0\u1edbc t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ebfn th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c bi\u1ebfn m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 th\u00e0nh “kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3”. T\u00f4i ngh\u0129 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9 h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eefng ch\u01b0\u1edbng ng\u1ea1i \u1ea5y\u00a0c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf ch\u00fang ta, ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ea5y v\u1edbi\u00a0ch\u00fang, ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft\u00a0v\u00e0, c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ecdn kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m.<\/p>\n

Tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed9c nh\u1ea5t. <\/strong>M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i. B\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u01b0 \u201cT\u1ea1i sao l\u1ea1i l\u00e0m ngh\u1ec1 y t\u00e1 trong khi con c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh b\u00e1c s\u0129?\u201d hay \u201cT\u1ea1i sao l\u1ea1i l\u00e0m th\u01b0 k\u00fd trong khi con c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh lu\u1eadt s\u01b0?\u201d. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 t\u00f4i th\u00edch kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1ed1t. Nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c \u1ea5y ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y t\u1ef1 h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, v\u00e0 l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 t\u00f4i c\u0169ng bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng ngh\u1ec1 m\u00e0 m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i cho l\u00e0 cao gi\u00e1 h\u01a1n \u1ea5y. X\u00e3 h\u1ed9i\u00a0ch\u00fang ta hay\u00a0\u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi phi th\u01b0\u1eddng, v\u00e0 v\u1edbi l\u00fd do kh\u00e1 ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng r\u1eb1ng\u00a0nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 \u00edch cho nh\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i. Nh\u01b0ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111ua \u0111\u00f2i \u0111\u1ec3 “gi\u1eef m\u1eb7t m\u0169i”, v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i g\u00ec m\u1edbi th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 phi th\u01b0\u1eddng. V\u1eady t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t? B\u1ea1n l\u00e0m g\u00ec hay t\u1ef1 n\u00f3i g\u00ec v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n khi b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady? Kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1eady th\u00ec g\u1eb7p h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 g\u00ec? Ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y v\u1eady, hay l\u00e0 do t\u00e1c nh\u00e2n b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n? Hay th\u1eadt ra b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n s\u1ef1 c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn, ho\u1eb7c mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, g\u1ea7n g\u0169i v\u00e0 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t th\u00ec nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh? Hay l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec kh\u00e1c?<\/p>\n

Tho\u00e1t ra kh\u1ecfi khu\u00f4n kh\u1ed5 phi th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. <\/strong>T\u00f4i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c theo khu\u00f4n kh\u1ed5 c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u, th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c \u1ea5y c\u00e0ng khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i t\u1ef1 ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t m\u00ecnh, (v\u00ed d\u1ee5 m\u1eadp v\u00e0 \u1ed1m, \u0111\u1eb9p v\u00e0 x\u1ea5u, gi\u1ecfi v\u00e0 d\u1edf, b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t). \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00f3i quen kh\u00f3 b\u1ecf. Ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n \u0111o l\u01b0\u1eddng y\u00eau th\u00edch c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i b\u00e2y gi\u1edd l\u00e0\u00a0 \u201cT\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i khi b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi hay kh\u00f4ng?\u201d, kh\u00f4ng m\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ebfn th\u00e0nh t\u00edch hay di\u1ec7n m\u1ea1o b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. T\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1eeb b\u1ecf ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n \u1ea5y v\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc\u00a0v\u00e0o khu\u00f4n kh\u1ed5 phi th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0\u00a0b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u01b0ng v\u1edbi t\u00f4i, vi\u1ec7c so s\u00e1nh hay \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00edch l\u1ee3i g\u00ec c\u1ea3. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p v\u00e0i k\u1ebb d\u1edf h\u01a1i kh\u00e1 “phi th\u01b0\u1eddng”, v\u00e0 th\u1ebf th\u00ec t\u00f4i th\u00e0\u00a0\u1edf c\u1ea1nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u201cb\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng\u201d c\u00f2n h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3i chung, y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng hay phi th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ea5y gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb khi t\u00f4i xem x\u00e9t vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 n\u00ean ch\u01a1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3\u00a0hay kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c? <\/strong>B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh r\u1eb1ng: \u201cN\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd gi\u00fap h\u1ecd b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o?\u201d. V\u1edbi t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t th\u00edch gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1, d\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t hay kh\u00f4ng, n\u1ebfu t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 (b\u1edfi v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o t\u00f4i c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap, t\u00f4i th\u1eadm ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng mu\u1ed1n giao ti\u1ebfp v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c). Gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 \u00edch v\u1edbi h\u1ecd. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 tr\u0103n tr\u1edf kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 \u00fd ngh\u0129 n\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i c\u0169ng nh\u1eadn ra \u00a0m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 –\u00a0r\u1eb1ng nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean\u00a0g\u00f3c nh\u00ecn c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd\u00a0c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 \u00edch \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u00fap. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3\u00a0t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u01a1n n\u1ebfu t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c \u1ea5y. Nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u0111\u00f4i khi kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m g\u00ec l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 \u00edch h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 l\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u00edch.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ed1i t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n (khi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3). <\/strong>\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i tho\u00e1t t\u1ed9i, b\u00ea tha, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u00e0 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i \u0111au m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh \u0111ang g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i. C\u00e1ch n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd c\u00f3 \u00edch v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n: N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb \u0111ang n\u00f3i cho b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c “ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng”, th\u00ec thay v\u00ec c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng “thay \u0111\u1ed5i” \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb \u1ea5y, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i \u0111au m\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a b\u00e9 \u1ea5y\u00a0\u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3i qua \u0111\u1ec3\u00a0c\u00f3 th\u1ec3\u00a0nh\u1eadn ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng “m\u00ecnh ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng”. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 \u1ed5n t\u00ed n\u00e0o c\u1ea3. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb th\u00e2n thu\u1ed9c v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd v\u1eabn m\u1ebfn ch\u00fang, b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ch\u00fang b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng hay phi th\u01b0\u1eddng. V\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3, t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. H\u00e3y cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u00e0 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u, v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00fang, h\u00e3y y\u00eau b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng “khi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3”, v\u00ec t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o m\u00ecnh c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. T\u00f9y ng\u00e0y, t\u00f9y t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng, t\u00f9y kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng v\u00e0o l\u00fac \u1ea5y, v\u00e2ng v\u00e2ng v\u00e0 v\u00e2ng v\u00e2ng. V\u1eady n\u00ean t\u00f4i lu\u00f4n c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp suy ngh\u0129 theo h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

Alexis Bright<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

T\u00f4i ngh\u0129 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n t\u00f4i kh\u00e1 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0m t\u00f4i phi\u1ec1n l\u00f2ng n\u1eefa. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch ch\u1eefa ung th\u01b0 hay c\u1ee9u th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. D\u00f9 l\u00e0 t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n th\u1ea5y th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11736,"featured_media":26011,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2279],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26010"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11736"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26010"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26010\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26012,"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26010\/revisions\/26012"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/26011"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26010"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26010"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scholarshipplanet.info\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26010"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}